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Saturday, August 13, 2005

"Is Your Son or Daughter Pre-Gay?"

Happy Saturday.

Gas prices are now out of control here in Hollywood.

I don't care about gas prices in Europe, jackass, 'coz me no live there.

$2.83 at the Mobil on Fairfax & Sunset.

Fleet Fueling in Burbank - $2.85.

That weird Chevron on Fairfax & Beverly? $2.67. The cheapest gas in the area...

All premium gas $'s are up over $3.

(Other prices going up as well - as biz folk begin to offset costs: Check out the prices at Ralph's & Trader Joe's, people.)

Don't know about the rest of you folks out there in 'Merica, but we're getting f*cked in the face here in SoCal.

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Please click the comment button below and send me the prices from your neighborhood.

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Can't wait for the weekend numbers. And the excuses: "There's a war on!" "Refineries are getting old!" "The Venezuelans keep messing with their prices!" "We have...concern...for future prices!" "Adjusted for inflation, the numbers aren't so bad."

Emperor Cheney once mentioned that "high oil prices" wouldn't be so bad for the economy. I can't find the exact quote, but will keep Googling 'til I do.

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Take one more pass at the following post on Dobson.

We'll deal with the upcoming war in IRAN tomorrow.

Onward...

To the BIGGER problem facing so many 'Mericans: PRE-HOMOSEXUAL kids.

(This post is inspired by RandyMI's piece on the Daily Kos. Check it out.)

Ready?
Helping Boys Become Men, and Girls Become Women

“My son couldn’t care less about sports and the great outdoors. He’s painfully shy and easily gets hurt. Other kids call him a sissy. I’ve tried everything. My boy even wimped out of Cub Scouts. What am I supposed to do?”

“Our oldest daughter, Lisa, is starting junior high soon. She’s a hopeless tomboy. If she had her way, she’d never wear skirts or dresses. She can’t wait to sign up for the school wrestling team this fall. If I say no, she’ll throw a fit. Where’s the magic wand so I can turn her into a lovely princess?”
"Where's the magic wand so I can turn her into a lovely princess?"

In your liquor cabinet. Behind your secret bottle of Chivas, ma'am.

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Anyone interested in shooting these testimonials as PSA's?

The writing...is awesome.

No one talks like this - but kudos to the FOF writing staff for taking a crack at "folksy" dialogue.
“My ex-husband spends very little time with our son, who has begun exhibiting some rather effeminate behaviors. I’m afraid he’s picked up those mannerisms from me. I’ve tried to be the best parent I can, but it’s BACKFIRING. What can I do before it’s too late?"
Obvioulsy, you've got to turn to the Lord.

And DR. JAMES DOBSON.

If you follow the links from the above mentioned post, you'll find yourself at the "Focus on the Family" site...and Dr. Jim's response to a letter from a 13 year old boy who is "having problems" with his sexuality.

Yes, the boy (who found Christ a year ago) is afraid that he's...well...I'll let him tell you:
"I'm afraid if I am not straight (that's much easier to write) I will go to hell. I don't want to be not straight. I don't try to be not straight. I love God and want to go to heaven. If something is wrong with me, I want to get rid of it."
Ouch.

Don't worry, people. Dr. Jim...to the rescue!
I was deeply touched by Mark's letter. I know him well even though we have never met. He is representative of many other preteens and teens around the world who have awakened to something terrifying within - something they don't understand - something that creates enormous confusion and doubt. These kids often recognize very early in life that they are "different" from other boys.
Here we go:
They may cry easily, be less athletic, have an artistic temperament and dislike the roughhousing that their friends enjoy.

Some of them prefer the company of girls, and they may walk, talk, dress and even "think" effeminately.

This, of course, brings rejection and ridicule from the "real boys," who tease them unmercifully and call them "queer," "fag," and "gay."
Man.
There is an additional dimension of pain for those who have grown up in a strong Christian home. Their sexual thoughts and feelings produce great waves of guilt accompanied by secret fears of divine retribution. They ask themselves, How could God love someone as vile as me?
Um...because you tell them that HE won't if they are.
Mark even felt condemned for jumping up and down in the shower and for feeling the excitement it created.
Tried that this morning me-self.

Almost slipped and cracked me 'ed open.

Won't be jumping up and down in the shower...anytime soon.
To get at those issues, we will turn to the very best resource for parents and teachers I have found. It is provided in an outstanding but YET-TO-BE-published manuscript entitled A Parent's Guide to Preventing Homosexuality, written by clinical psychologist Joseph Nicolosi, Ph.D. Dr. Nicolosi is, I believe, the foremost authority on the prevention and treatment of homosexuality today. His book will offer practical advice and a clear-eyed perspective on the antecedents of homosexuality.
Why do I get the sneaking suspicion that Dr. Jim gonna publish that there book?
There are certain signs of PREHOMOSEXUALITY which are easy to recognize, and the signs come early in the child's life.
Prehomosexuality.

Wow.
Most come under the heading of "cross-gender behavior." There are FIVE markers to [diagnose] a child with "gender-identity disorder." They are:

1. Repeatedly stated desire to be, or insistence that he or she is, the other sex.

2. In boys, preference for cross-dressing, or simulating female attire. In girls, insistence on wearing only stereotypical masculine clothing.

3. Strong and persistent preference for cross-sexual roles in make-believe play, or persistent fantasies of being the other sex.

4. Intense desire to participate in stereotypical games and pastimes of the other sex.

5. Strong preference for playmates of the other sex.
6. Strong desire to listen to show-tunes and/or K.D. Lang.

Kidding.

Sorry.
It is important to understand, however, that most of my homosexual clients were not explicitly feminine when they were children.

More often, they displayed a "nonmasculinity" that set them painfully apart from other boys: unathletic, somewhat passive, unaggressive and uninterested in rough-and-tumble play.

A number of them had traits that COULD BE considered gifts: bright, precocious, social and relational and artistically talented. These characteristics had one common tendency: they set them apart from their male peers and contributed to a distortion in the development of their normal gender identity.
Subtext: A number of kids had traits that COULD BE considered "gifts," but were really signs that they were GAY.

"Thus...evil!"
In my opinion (and in the opinion of an increasing number of researchers), the father plays an essential role in a boy's normal development as a man. The truth is, Dad is more important than Mom. Mothers make boys. Fathers make men. In infancy, both boys and girls are emotionally attached to the mother. In psychoanalytic language, Mother is the first love object. She meets all her child's primary needs.

Girls can continue to grow in their identification with their mothers. On the other hand, a boy has an additional developmental task—to disidentify from his mother and identify with his father. At this point [beginning at about eighteen months], a little boy will not only begin to observe the difference, he must now decide, "Which one am I going to be?"
I wanted to be Han Solo.

And Ace Frehley.

And "The Fonz."
In making this shift in identity, the little boy begins to take his father as a model of masculinity. At this early stage, generally before the age of three, Ralph Greenson observed, the boy decides that he would like to grow up like his father. This is a choice. Implicit in that choice is the decision that he would not like to grow up to be like his mother. According to Robert Stoller, "The first order of business in being a man is, 'don't be a woman.'"
Christian words to live by, people.

Don't be a woman.

That's from the "Sermon on the Mount," right?

"And the Lord said, "Men! Don't be women!"
Meanwhile, the boy's father has to do his part.

He needs to mirror and affirm his son's maleness.

He can play rough-and-tumble games with his son, in ways that are decidedly different from the games he would play with a little girl.
Like...he can tackle little Johnny...without pads?
He can help his son learn to throw and catch a ball.

He can teach him to pound a square wooden peg into a square hole in a pegboard.

He can even take his son with him into the shower, where the boy cannot help but notice that Dad has a penis, just like his, only bigger.
Hey now.

"Houston, we have a problem."

That how they teach little boys there in Colorado Springs?

"Son, come here a second, would you? Daddy wants to pray with you."
For a variety of reasons, some mothers also have a tendency to prolong their sons' infancy. A mother's intimacy with her son is primal, complete, exclusive; theirs is a powerful bond which can deepen into what psychiatrist Robert Stoller calls a "blissful symbiosis." But the mother may be inclined to hold onto her son in what becomes an unhealthy mutual dependency, especially if she does not have a satisfying, intimate relationship with the boy's father. She can put too much energy into the boy, using him to fulfill her own needs in a way that is not good for him. In reparative therapy [a psychologist's name for treatment of homosexuals], effeminate boys yearn for what is called "the three A's." They are: their father's affection, attention and approval.

If [a father] wants his son to grow up straight, he has to break the mother-son connection that is proper to infancy but not in the boy's interest after the age of three.
I was sick of my mom's bitching by age three...so...that break wasn't really a problem for me.

I suspect, though, that some Dobsonians out there - in Dobsonland - are "breaking that connection" in more...dramatic ways.

"It's called...coming home drunk!"

"Taking him into the shower again."

"Smacking him with the Bible?"
In this way, the father has to be a model, demonstrating that it is possible for his son to maintain a loving relationship with this woman, his mom, while maintaining his own independence.
Subtext: Daddy has to teach little Johnny to hate women.

"Eve. Delilah. Jezebel. They're all evil, son. And if you ever have to interview one, make sure you have another man in the room with you."
In this way, the father is a healthy buffer between mother and son.
Right!

Last bit of comedy:
Finally, if homosexuality were genetically transmitted, it would be inevitable, immutable, irresistible, and untreatable. Fortunately, it is not.

Prevention is effective. Change is possible. Hope is available.

And Christ is in the business of healing.
"Yeah, healing leppers and blind people and stuff. But I never said anything about gay dudes. What the fuck?"
Here again, gay and lesbian organizations and the media have convinced the public that being homosexual is as predetermined as one's race and that nothing can be done about it. That is simply not true. There are EIGHT HUNDRED known former gay and lesbian individuals today who have escaped from the homosexual lifestyle and found wholeness in their newfound heterosexuality.
Eight hundred, huh?

"And where is this race of super beings?"
One such individual is my co-worker at Focus on the Family, John Paulk, who has devoted his life to caring for and assisting those who want to change.

At one time, he was heavily involved in the gay community, marched in "gay-pride" parades and was a cross-dresser.
Being Gay: (adj) Be-ing Gay 1. Having a tendency to march in "gay pride" parades and cross dressing. 2. Relating to the plot-lines in "The L Word" and "Queer as Folk." 3. Owning Jack Russell terriers and driving those newfangled VW Beetles.
Ultimately, John found forgiveness and healing in a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, and he has walked the STRAIGHT LIFE now since 1987.

He is happily married to Anne, A FORMER LESBIAN, and they have two beautiful children. Despite a MOMENTARY SETBACK when he entered and was discovered in a homosexual bar, which delighted his critics, John did not return to his former life.
Oh, really?

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"Rocky Mountain high (high!), Colorado! Rocky Mountian high (high!), Colorado!"

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Hey, dads? Don't forget to hit your little dudes today. They'll totally thank you for it...when they're not gay.

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A lot of "powerful" men out there - with their own "daddy" issues. And we're all paying for it.

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Rent "Carrie" and send me them gas prices.

More later...

2 Comments:

  • Yesterday I had $2.67 for reg. unleaded at the Shell on Vermont/Hollywood.

    I like the guys there, but sometimes I'm a bit suspicious. They weren't always a Shell for example...

    On another note - how do you buy gas if you have a consciences. I mean, I haven't purchased gas at an Exxon since 1989, but I know that Shell and Texaco and all the others are just as evil.

    Time for more bikes.

    By Anonymous Nick, at 9:29 AM  

  • And another thing:

    During the run-up to the 2003 attack on Iraq, we were repeatedly told by US leaders that Iraq absolutely, positively had weapons of mass destruction. The country was an immediate threat not only to its neighbors but to the entire world. It had the capability of launching WMDs within 45 minutes.

    In August 2002, Cheney insisted: "Simply stated, there is no doubt that Saddam Hussein now has weapons of mass destruction."

    In a March 2003 address to the nation, Bush said: "Intelligence gathered by this and other governments leaves no doubt that the Iraq regime continues to possess and conceal some of the most lethal weapons ever devised."

    In April 2003, Fleischer claimed: "But make no mistake--as I said earlier--we have high confidence that they have weapons of mass destruction. That is what this war was about and it is about."

    In February 2003, Powell said: "We know that Saddam Hussein is determined to keep his weapons of mass destruction, is determined to make more."

    BUT TWO YEARS EARLIER, POWELL SAID JUST THE OPPOSITE!!!!!!!

    (Powell commenting on sanctions)
    "He has not developed any significant capability with respect to weapons of mass destruction. He is unable to project conventional power against his neighbors. So in effect, our policies have strengthened the security of the neighbors of Iraq..."

    By Anonymous Nick, at 9:46 AM  

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